RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL LESSON TWENTY-TWENTY
TOPIC: HANDLING MARITAL DELAY
RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
*1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
*2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
*3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
*4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.
*5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds are black with rain,
I’ll be at Sunday School.
*6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
MEMORY VERSE: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor of the LORD.” — Proverbs 18:22
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 29:15-21
Genesis:29.15 – Then Laban said to Jacob, “Because you [are] my relative, should you, therefore, serve me for nothing? Tell me, what [should] your wages [be?”]
Genesis:29.16 – Now Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder [was] Leah, and the name of the younger [was] Rachel.
Genesis:29.17 – Leah’s eyes [were] delicate, but Rachel was beautiful of form and appearance.
Genesis:29.18 – Now Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, “I will serve you seven years for Rachel your younger daughter.”
Genesis:29.19 – And Laban said, “[It is] better that I give her to you than that I should give her to another man. Stay with me.”
Genesis:29.20 – So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed [only] a few days to him because of the love he had for her.
Genesis:29.21 – Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give [me] my wife, for my days, are fulfilled, that I may go into her.”
Marriage is an institution ordained by God since the creation of man (Gen. 2:18). The divine order is that man should not be alone and that no one should lack his/her mate (Isaiah 34:16).
Marital delay is, therefore, a situation whereby someone who is ‘due’ or ‘ready’ to marry is not yet married as a result of circumstances, sometimes, beyond his/her control. It should be noted, however, that anyone who chooses not to marry for ‘genuine’ reasons may not be in error (Matthew 19:12, 1Corinthians 7:7-8).
Marital delay is a global phenomenon that gives parents, pastors, relatives, church members, marriage counselors and society at large serious concern. Hence, as believers, it is important to learn how to manage such a situation.
RCCG Sunday School OUTLINES
1. LIKELY CAUSES OF MARITAL DELAY
2. WHAT TO DO WHILE YOU WAIT
LIKELY CAUSES OF MARITAL DELAY
Here are some of the possible causes of marital delay. While some may be beyond the control of the victims, others can be worked upon by those experiencing the delay.
1. CHARACTER DEFECT: Such as anger, malice, laziness, dirtiness, inferiority/superiority complex, overbearing, stubbornness, pride, etc. May repel prospective partners from someone due for marriage (Proverbs 21:9,19, Eccl. 10:1, 2Corinthians 10:12, Proverbs 16:18).
2. HIGH MINDEDNESS: Waiting for or insisting on marrying a partner of high educational status, high standard of living, and high paying job in a reputed organization, wealthy family background, and the top position in office or society, high level of spirituality, tall and heavily built, physically beautiful, etc. Although these qualities are good and desirable, such personalities may not be easily found (Phil. 2:3).
3. EXCESSIVE CAREER FOCUS: Excessive focus on one’s career or business at the expense of preparation for marital relationships sometimes leads to a delay in getting married (Eccl. 1:3-4).
4. EMOTIONAL TRAUMA: Past experiences of failed relationships, sexual abuses, disappointment, domestic violence, parental/guardian misconduct, etc. usually constitute emotional imbalance for the victim and may lead to marital delay (Isaiah 43:18, Psalm 147:3)
5. RACIAL/TRIBAL SENTIMENTS: Most people who practice this are sometimes compelled or supported by their parents who insist they only get married to people from a particular race or tribe (Romans 10:12, Galatians 3:28).
6. DELAY IN OTHER OF LIFE ACHIEVEMENT: Experience of delay in other spheres of life like an educational pursuit, employment, financial stability, etc, maybe stumbling blocks to timely marriage (Psalm 90:14)
7. DEMONIC INFLUENCE OR GENERATIONAL CURSE: Like in the case of Daniel’s petition, some marital delays are a result of demonic influence (Daniel 10:12-13). Others may experience a marital delay due to unbroken generational covenants or curses.
WHAT TO DO WHILE YOU WAIT
Those who are experiencing a delay in getting married should not get so desperate to the point of falling into wrong hands. Rather, they should patiently hold on to God’s promises (Hebrews 10:36) and exercise self-discipline (1Corinthians 6:12).
In humility, they should define their relationship with the opposite sex, avoid unnecessary hang-out and beware of exploiters (Prov. 6:3, Proverbs 12:26).
Some may also need to work on their character flaws by manifesting the fruit of the Holy Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). Being positive in reasoning, actions and reactions can be very helpful, believing that with God nothing shall be impossible (Jeremiah 32:27). Pay attention to your health, physical appearance, mannerism and live responsibly (S.Sol 2:14, 5:15, Psalm 122:5). Pray against the forces of delay working against your life and family (1Corinthians 4:10).
God created us to fulfill diverse purposes irrespective of our marital status. Delay in getting married should not be viewed as a denial of the fulfillment of God’s promises. Wait on God and He will surely settle your case.
1. Briefly Discuss Some Likely Causes Of Marital Delay
2. Identify What A Victim Of Marital Delay Should Do While Waiting
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